Are you in control, or is it controlling you?

Pornography and problematic sexual behavior can start as a form of stress relief, escape, or habit. For some, it gradually takes more than it gives.

Consider these questions:

  • Do you find yourself watching even when you don’t want to?

  • Have you tried to cut back or stop but keep going back?

  • Is it interfering with your relationships, confidence, or sexual performance?

  • Do you feel guilt or shame afterwards but can’t seem to break out of the cycle?

  • Is it escalating - requiring more time or more extreme content to feel the same effect?

  • Is your behavior a shameful secret that you’ve kept from your signifiant other for years or even decades?

  • OR: did the discovery of your deceptive behaviors blow up your relationship and now you are desperately looking for support as you try to salvage your relationship?

If any of these sound familiar, you are not alone and there is a way forward.

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break free of the cycle and find real change and recovery

Through individual therapy work, you can begin to understand both the ways in which your problematic use has kept you stuck in a loop, disconnected from others, and living an inauthentic life.

Individual therapy work consists of regular sessions where you can:

  • Establish a concrete recovery plan, tailored specifically to you and your unique challenges.

  • Explore underlying factors that contributed to getting to this point. Often there is trauma at the root, but not always.

  • Understand the differences between compulsive vs entitled use of problematic sexual behaviors.

  • Learn real tools and practical skills to implement for relationship repair work, if applicable.

  • Regain confidence, self respect, and integrity.

    & much much more.

If your partner has recently learned of these behaviors, and they are experiencing shock, grief, anger, confusion, etc…

My work is heavily integrated with an understanding of the unique challenges and emotional impacts to betrayed partners. I can help you navigate the relationship repair process, and provide you with tried and true strategies for doing your part of ongoing relationship repair efforts.

Don’t make the mistake of trying to figure it out on your own. You can benefit from talking through your options, and getting a professional perspective on how you can improve your ability to help your partner heal from the damage caused by discovery of deceptive sexual behaviors.